Understanding Your Child’s Sensory Processing Needs [Podcast Episode 008]

Interview with Marti Smith

I didn’t know that sensory processing disorder existed until I began fostering my son. I noticed that some of his behavior was strange, such as, licking all kinds of surfaces like table tops, blankets, even the top of my bald head.


I also wondered why in some environments he spun completely out of control, jumping around, yelling, bouncing off walls and people. Then I learned about sensory input. I also learned that we all struggle with sensory input at some level. Now I understood myself better too.

In today’s podcast episode, I discuss with occupational therapist, Marti Smith, about how we as parents can not only recognize our child’s sensory processing needs, but also help them navigate them well.

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The Biggest Obstacle to Christians Living a Life On Mission

How God calls a Christian to live is clear and simple. You can phrase it any way you choose—engage others, share the story, live a missional life—it boils down to His call for us to live a life on mission. His mission.


The question is why don’t more Christians choose to live this way?

I don’t just mean going to another country as a missionary, either short or long-term. I mean living life in such a way that it drives every decision you make. But what does that even look like?

How does living a life on mission impact the way you spend your money; parent your children; spend your time; who you hang out with?

Maybe you have never given that much thought. Instead you make those decisions with no consideration how they impact your ability to live a missional life. In fact, if you ever think about living a life on mission it’s only a few times a year—like the end of the year when you consider making a donation to a “good cause” for a tax break.

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The Importance of Parental Self Care [Podcast Episode 007]

Interview with Robyn Gobbel

All too often a parent gets so focused on the well-being and health of their children that they neglect themselves. A parent feels that the needs of their child is more important than their own. They fail to recognize that taking care of themselves will ensure that they have what they need to parent their child well.


How can we as parents take care of ourselves when we have so many demands on our time, emotions, and mental energy so that we can be fully present for our kids?

Listen to my conversation with Robyn Gobbel, LCSW as we discuss this very important topic. Robyn is a licensed clinical social worker and physcho-therapist. She speaks and trains often on this subject. In this interview she not only helps us understand the importance of self care, but she also offers practical tips and ideas.

Want to learn more from Robyn? Here is where you can find more helpful resources and how to contact Robyn:


Central Texas Attachment and Trauma Center – http://centraltexasattachmenttrauma.com

9 Specific Resources I Used to Self Publish My Latest Book

Over the past couple of years, I went back and forth about how to publish my next book. I really thought that I would go the traditional route of publishing…outline the book, write a few chapters, write a proposal, and shop the book to agents. I was far down that path when I changed my mind again and decided to go the self publishing route.


I talk about why I decided to invest in a self publishing school – Why I Joined the Self-Publishing School – but the purpose of this blog post is to share with you some of the resources I used to self publish Foster and Adoptive Parenting: Authentic Stories that Will Inspire and Encourage Parenting with Connection.

Self publishing a book is a little like building your own house. As the general contractor, you make all the decisions and sub-contract out the work you don’t want to do yourself, or don’t know how to do.

It helps if you first know all of the steps when you are the “general contractor”, and that is where the Self Publishing school helped me out tremendously.

Here are 9 Specific Resources that I used to self publish my book:

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Helping Our Son Handle Transitions [Podcast Episode 006]

Have you ever tried to get out the door in a hurry then your child has a total meltdown because they don’t want to stop what they are doing? The harder you try to help them transition the worse it gets, so not only are you late, but the family is in total chaos.


We can predict some transitions and help our kids navigate them. Yet others catch us completely off guard. The better we, as parents, think ahead, the better we can help our children. Even if we are caught off guard, we can respond rather than react.

In today’s podcast episode, Danielle and I share some stories about how we have helped our son handle transitions. Here are a few things we share:

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A Year of Change and Thankfulness

As I sit here looking out the window of my home office across a tree-filled front yard reflecting over the past year, my heart is full of thankfulness.


When the end of the year arrives, I begin a time of reflection. Thinking back through the past year helps me to remember reasons to give thanks. When I forgo this important ritual, I tend to get caught up in the weeds of each day which often only serves as a way to blind me of the many reasons for thankfulness.

Year of Change

This time last year I was recovering from major ankle surgery hoping it would heal enough so I could chase my young son around.

Soon after my surgery we bought and moved into a new home (new to us) that sits on 5 acres. This brought lots of change. Especially for our son. Not only did he move from the only home he remembered, but he also began Kindergarten at a school where he knew no one.  As you know, change can be very challenging for a young child, especially one with a trauma background.

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How Our Attachment Style Impacts Our Parenting [Podcast Episode 005]

An Interview with Marshall Lyles

In this interview Marshall Lyles and I talk about how the attachment style of a parent impacts a child. This episode is imbedded in the chapter—”Pay Attention to What You Bring” in my book, Foster and Adoptive Parenting: Authentic Stories that Will Inspire and Encourage Parenting with Connection.


Often we as parents get so wrapped up in the challenges that our kids face that we completely neglect what our challenges are.

In this episode you will discover:

  • Why it’s important to pay attention to your attachment style.
  • What happens when you bring a wounded child into your family.
  • What compassionate curiosity looks like.

To learn more about Marshall and the Center for Relational Care where he serves as the director of training, follow the links below:

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Get Your Free Copy While You Can!

Foster and Adoptive Parenting: Authentic Stories that Will Inspire and Encourage Parenting with Connection

You can get your free copy for a little while longer, so grab your copy and let your friends know about it. Foster and Adoptive Parenting: Authentic Stories that Will Inspire and Encourage Parenting with Connection is getting great reviews.



Yes the main audience is foster and adoptive parents, but this book is useful for any parent. Why? Because parenting with connection works for any parent.

In Foster and Adoptive Parenting you get:

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Foster and Adoptive Parenting Book Launch [Podcast 004]

The Ebook Launches on November 13. Grab Your Free Copy While You Can!

In today’s podcast I share some excitement about my new ebook, Foster and Adoptive Parenting, that launches on November 13. For three days you will be able to grab a free copy! So share the love with everyone you know.



In the podcast episode I share what you will find in the book and how you will benefit from it. As well as why I wrote this book. Enjoy the podcast!

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My Thoughts on the 2016 Presidential Election

I am 55 years old, and the first presidential election that I voted in was in 1980. I have always paid attention to politics with both a curious and discerning eye. I cannot recall a presidential election that caused as much angst as this one has for me.


Through the years I have watched many debates that over time reveal less and less to me where the candidates stand on different issues. In the same way we become fixated on a car wreck, this presidential season captured my attention.

A thought I had this year is how much social media has changed how we talk about politics. It seems my generation bridges the gap between two very different generations where one never talked openly about their political leanings and most definitely never revealed who they voted for in an election, and another generation that not only talks freely about politics but with a brash and “I am right, and you are wrong” tone.

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