Celebrating Birthdays with Two Sanguines

Sanguine—People that have a lively, sociable, carefree, and talkative temperament. That perfectly describes my wife. She can talk to anyone with her outgoing, carefree personality. She draws energy from social events and being around people. And I love her lively, carefree approach to life.

I am what they call Phlegmatic. People with my temperament tend to be inward and private, thoughtful, reasonable, calm, patient, caring, and tolerant. Quite different from a person with a sanguine personality! As they say, “Opposites attract.”

Over 20 plus of years, we have learned to appreciate our vastly different personalities. I have learned to jump up and down when she shares something exciting with me. I also have learned to live life more carefree, and painfully at times, think out loud!

Whenever Did Jesus Say—Just Agree with Me

Whenever did Jesus say to his disciples—Just agree with me?Bob Goff

Bob goes on to say, “Jesus said to his disciples, ‘Let’s go do stuff, love people, etc.’”. I think we over-complicate life as Christians. We recoil from terms like “radical” and “on-fire”. Maybe it’s because we fear failure; or we think we can’t live up to the standard we or others set for ourselves. Instead, we settle into a safe, comfortable lifestyle of attending meetings and acquiring knowledge.

I recently began reading Bob’s book—Love Does: Discover a Secretly Incredible Life in an Ordinary World. I like this quote from the book:

I don’t think anyone aims to be typical, really. Most people even vow to themselves some time in high school or college not to be typical. But still, they just kind of loop back to it somehow. Like the circular rails of a train at an amusement park, the scripts we know offer a brand of security, of predictability, of safety for us. But the problem is, they only take us where we’ve already been. They loop us back to places where everyone can easily go, not necessarily where we were made to go. Living a different kind of life takes some guts and grit and a new way of seeing things.Bob Goff, Love Does

I admit that I often feel the tug back to a familiar script for the sake of security. Yet, I dislike, no, it’s more of a fear that I will grow bored of an overly scripted life. Sure predictability brings me a level of comfort. But, for me, it also brings a level of contempt that begs the question, “Is this all there is to life?”.

Let My Life Be the Proof of His Love—The Brillante Adoption Story

John and Joy Brillante lead the typical suburban, upper middle class lifestyle. In the summer of 2012, they both had full-time careers and three biological children—two in high school and one in college. Two years previously, they decided to open their home to foster children. After one difficult and one rewarding placement, the Brillantes decided to become an inactive foster family.

Brillante newest family members!

Brillante newest family members!

Joy tells the rest of their adoption story:

In early June, 2012, we received a call from an agency worker who had come to know our family well through the previous foster placement. I’ll never forget the simplicity of that conversation. I was working, and I received this call. “This is Meagan from Angelheart. I know you are inactive, but we are calling anyway to ask if you would be willing to take an adoptive placement of a sibling group of 4 sisters, ages 4-9, by 5 o’clock today.” My immediately response was, “There is no way!.”

What Could Happen if We Said “Yes God” Instead of “How God?”

How God? How exactly are you going to do it? How can you use me? How are you going to fix this? Mankind has been asking these kinds of questions of God for a long time.

Trouble with the How questions is that it reveals a lack of faith and a need for control.

When we show faith, we trust God at His word—whether it is His written Word or the word He impresses on our heart. When He speaks to us and we respond, “How?”, do we reflect someone who follows Him? Do we demonstrate that He is our Lord who is all Powerful and all Knowing?

When I ask God how, I am really saying that I want some control in the matter. I want God to explain to me how He plans to fulfill His promises. Does He owe me an explanation? Do I deserve to know how He will do what He says He will do?

What I Learned from My Reader Survey

Two weeks ago I launched my first reader survey. You can still take the survey, by the way! Just go here—Yes, I Will Take Your Survey! I continue to work on my blogging and writing skills. Your feedback gives me some very helpful insight. Ultimately, I think that you benefit since your input should improve my overall content. So, Thank You!

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Photo Credit: odegaard library via Compfight cc

I get a lot of my mentoring from Michael Hyatt. Not personally but through his website and Platform University. Recently he published three videos that allows someone like me (and you maybe?) to look over his shoulder while he mentors someone on how to improve their website, platform and influence. If you are a blogger or have a website, I recommend checking out Platform University!

I didn’t know what kind of response to expect, but I am pleased with the number of people who participated in the survey. Here is a quick glance of a typical reader on my site:

The Most Effective Way to Disciple

Anyone who knows me knows I am all about radically responding to the needs of those around me. Helping build a home a long the border in South Texas; repairing a home of a working poor family in the midst of affluent neighbors in Lake Travis; meeting the need of  a homeless person; defending the orphan, even adopting a child; supporting and serving alongside those on the foreign mission field—these are all ways I have responded.

Helping build a church in Louisiana

Helping build a church in Louisiana

However I can fool myself into believing that I have discipled others through these actions. They are a good first step, but they don’t necessarily disciple anyone. The challenge with this list is that for most of the activities my time spent with people is/was brief, a few days at a time at best.

Now I am not saying I will stop doing these things, but when we think that these brief interactions focused on meeting a need accomplishes the mission, we miss the mark.

7 Financial Decisions that Will Help You Live Missionally

I know, it’s hard enough to take care of your own needs much less put any thought into what other people need. And yes we are entering that time of year where you get hit up by everyone from everywhere—school age kids selling chocolate bars you really love but don’t want lying around your home; mailers from some charity you gave to five years ago; phone call solicitors asking you to support a local organization; and now social media!

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Some of us respond out of guilt or end up feeling a little resentful. How can anyone pursue the American Dream and give to every opportunity that presents itself?

I suggest you can’t nor should you.

Year Two Adoption Update

Time flies as they say. I wonder if time goes by more quickly when life is more intense. Yeah, I think it does. This week we celebrated the second anniversary of our son’s “Gotcha Day”!

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Raising a preschool age child describes intensity for anyone. Constant motion. Endless questions. Creative manipulation.

The second year of our son as a part of our forever family brought all of that and more. Throw in a couple of months of persistent night terrors, more attachment issues and several neighbor friends moving and now we have intensity.

Please Take My 2014 Reader Survey

I want to make my blog better and more relevant to your needs and interests. To do that, I need to know more about YOU. As a result I have created my 2014 Reader Survey.


Would you please take a few minutes to fill out the survey? By doing so, you will ultimately be helping yourself. Why? Because you will be helping me make my content even more interesting and relevant to you.

Your input is important to me. The survey is easy to fill out. The survey results are completely anonymous. I can’t tell who said what. And it will only take five minutes of your time.


Thanks in advance for your help!

5 Ways to Seek God’s Refuge

I once heard God’s attributes described as the many facets of a finely cut gemstone. One can spend an infinite amount of time gazing at the beauty of each facet. All of the facets combined create a beautiful, unique, mesmerizing gemstone.


God as my Refuge is one of His many facets or characteristics that brings me much comfort. A Strong Tower and a Hiding Place are a couple of ways I think of God as my Refuge. I find a lot of different scripture verses when I search on the word refuge. Many describe God as a mother bird covering her chicks with her expansive wings. Or as God protecting us like a mighty fortress providing a safe place for us to rest from the things that attack us or come our way.