Circle of Security: An Interview with Suzette Lamb [Podcast 009]

I talk a lot about attachment in my book, Foster and Adoptive Parenting: Authentic Stories that Will Inspire and Encourage Parenting with Connection. One of the best models I have seen is called the Circle of Security (COS).


In today’s podcast episode, I interview Suzette Lamb who is a trained COS lecturer. I have had the privilege to hear Suzette speak in person a few times, and I always enjoy her passion and her style of communication.

In this episode you will hear the following:

  • A brief history of the Circle of Security.
  • How this model applies to every parent/child relationship.
  • Why it is important for us to raise children who have autonomy within relatedness and relatedness within their autonomy

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Understanding Your Child’s Sensory Processing Needs [Podcast Episode 008]

Interview with Marti Smith

I didn’t know that sensory processing disorder existed until I began fostering my son. I noticed that some of his behavior was strange, such as, licking all kinds of surfaces like table tops, blankets, even the top of my bald head.


I also wondered why in some environments he spun completely out of control, jumping around, yelling, bouncing off walls and people. Then I learned about sensory input. I also learned that we all struggle with sensory input at some level. Now I understood myself better too.

In today’s podcast episode, I discuss with occupational therapist, Marti Smith, about how we as parents can not only recognize our child’s sensory processing needs, but also help them navigate them well.

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The Importance of Parental Self Care [Podcast Episode 007]

Interview with Robyn Gobbel

All too often a parent gets so focused on the well-being and health of their children that they neglect themselves. A parent feels that the needs of their child is more important than their own. They fail to recognize that taking care of themselves will ensure that they have what they need to parent their child well.


How can we as parents take care of ourselves when we have so many demands on our time, emotions, and mental energy so that we can be fully present for our kids?

Listen to my conversation with Robyn Gobbel, LCSW as we discuss this very important topic. Robyn is a licensed clinical social worker and physcho-therapist. She speaks and trains often on this subject. In this interview she not only helps us understand the importance of self care, but she also offers practical tips and ideas.

Want to learn more from Robyn? Here is where you can find more helpful resources and how to contact Robyn:

Central Texas Attachment and Trauma Center –

Helping Our Son Handle Transitions [Podcast Episode 006]

Have you ever tried to get out the door in a hurry then your child has a total meltdown because they don’t want to stop what they are doing? The harder you try to help them transition the worse it gets, so not only are you late, but the family is in total chaos.


We can predict some transitions and help our kids navigate them. Yet others catch us completely off guard. The better we, as parents, think ahead, the better we can help our children. Even if we are caught off guard, we can respond rather than react.

In today’s podcast episode, Danielle and I share some stories about how we have helped our son handle transitions. Here are a few things we share:

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How Our Attachment Style Impacts Our Parenting [Podcast Episode 005]

An Interview with Marshall Lyles

In this interview Marshall Lyles and I talk about how the attachment style of a parent impacts a child. This episode is imbedded in the chapter—”Pay Attention to What You Bring” in my book, Foster and Adoptive Parenting: Authentic Stories that Will Inspire and Encourage Parenting with Connection.


Often we as parents get so wrapped up in the challenges that our kids face that we completely neglect what our challenges are.

In this episode you will discover:

  • Why it’s important to pay attention to your attachment style.
  • What happens when you bring a wounded child into your family.
  • What compassionate curiosity looks like.

To learn more about Marshall and the Center for Relational Care where he serves as the director of training, follow the links below:

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Get Your Free Copy While You Can!

Foster and Adoptive Parenting: Authentic Stories that Will Inspire and Encourage Parenting with Connection

You can get your free copy for a little while longer, so grab your copy and let your friends know about it. Foster and Adoptive Parenting: Authentic Stories that Will Inspire and Encourage Parenting with Connection is getting great reviews.



Yes the main audience is foster and adoptive parents, but this book is useful for any parent. Why? Because parenting with connection works for any parent.

In Foster and Adoptive Parenting you get:

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Foster and Adoptive Parenting Book Launch [Podcast 004]

The Ebook Launches on November 13. Grab Your Free Copy While You Can!

In today’s podcast I share some excitement about my new ebook, Foster and Adoptive Parenting, that launches on November 13. For three days you will be able to grab a free copy! So share the love with everyone you know.



In the podcast episode I share what you will find in the book and how you will benefit from it. As well as why I wrote this book. Enjoy the podcast!

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What Myth about Foster Care Do You Believe? [Podcast 003]

National Adoption Day

Before we decided to become foster parents, I had a lot of misconceptions about foster care. I really didn’t understand how the system worked or even why a child was in foster care.


I think two reasons prevent more families from adopting a child from foster care—Misunderstanding why a child is in foster care and ignorance about the need.

In today’s podcast episode, I talk about National Adoption Day, facts about foster care, and help dispel some myths about foster care. I get my talking points from the website. Please visit their site to get more information.

Want to read more about the 8 Steps to Get Started that I mentioned on the podcast? Go to

I also mention the launch on November 13 of my new book, Foster and Adoptive Parenting. This book uses real-life stories, interviews with professional counselors and an occupational therapist, along with a few conversations that I have with my wife, Danielle, to encourage you to keep on parenting with connection. We all understand that it is hard and that you feel alone and discouraged at times, even possibly to the point of giving up. This book will not only encourage you, but will also inspire you with practical advice and tips.

If you want an email reminder from me when the book launches, and when you can get a FREE copy, simply fill out the form below.

6 Ways to Structure Your Life So You Have Time to Help A Child Heal from Trauma

Sample from new ebook—Foster and Adoptive Parenting

You want to bring a child who needs a home into your family but you know that your pace of life is too crazy to invest much time into that child. Unless the placement of the child into your home is an emergency kinship situation, I strongly suggest that you evaluate your lifestyle and restructure where you can.


If you don’t know where to begin, here are six ideas:

  • Remember Your Role

When you decided to foster or adopt, you made a commitment to that child. Part of that commitment was to help your child heal from their past. Part of that past most likely includes uncertainty. Your foster or adopted child needs extra time and a slower pace to process their environments and to feel safe.

One way to fulfill that commitment is to be fully present. That is hard to do if you are constantly on the go, working long hours, spending time taking your other children to many activities, and constantly on your mobile device.

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Your Words Will Build Up or They Will Tear Down [Podcast Episode 001]

(Expounded Thoughts from 7 Things Your Foster or Adopted Child Needs to Hear from You)

Today’s podcast expounds on a previously posted blog—7 Things Your Foster or Adopted Child Needs to Hear from You. Since this was a popular blog post, I take some time to dig a little deeper into the 7 things that your child needs to hear from you. In fact, you can apply these to any relationship you have.




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