Yikes! My wife, Danielle, is reading the final draft of my manuscript. I gave it to her late last week. She began reading it over the weekend.
She read the first half a few months ago when I had completed it. She provided some excellent content critique. Now she will be reading my revisions to the first half and the half that she has not yet read.
It is an interesting time for me to hand over my manuscript to her. I think that we are feeling the stress of being in a constant state of flux for the past five years. That state of flux only intensified during the first 15 months that our foster son was with us.
When he was placed with us during the summer of 2011, I thought that he would be with us for only a couple of weeks. Then, as that turned into months, I lived each day thinking that it would be the last day that he was living with us.
It was during this time that I began writing this book. My first draft expressed through the verb tense my certainty of his soon departure.
Now that we know the outcome, our lives are beginning to settle into a bit of a routine. That is a good thing for us right now. At least for a few months it will be a good thing.
But back to how that has worn on our marriage. Like so many couples who are focused on raising a family, we found ourselves talking to each other more and more about only the logistics of making it through each day. At first, I thought that we would only have to do that for a short time, like a few weeks or a couple of months at the most.
However, those months turned into a year and a half. By that time, we found it hard to even talk about logistics without getting frustrated or upset with each other. Not good!
In the midst of this challenging time I handed over the final draft of my manuscript to my wife! I am not sure if I am overly trusting or extremely foolish. I choose trusting.
Seriously, I do trust my wife and her judgement. In fact, I highly value her input.
As for our relationship – we know what we need to do. We are committed to each other. We have resolved to hire babysitters more often, so that we can spend time together without the interruption of a very social two-year old boy. We have also made it a priority to spend time together in God’s Word and in prayer.
I am confident with His help, we will get our relationship back on track. She is absolutely worth it! And, I am looking forward to her feedback on the final draft.